Lessons I've Learn In Raising A Kid
It's been three years since we welcome our first born. Looking back there a lot of fears, anxieties, excitement and mix feelings. Here are some of the things I learned as a first time mommy.
Your Kid is Unique
This may sound cliche and you might hear this many times or for the first time, but its true. Your kid is specially made for you and will experience own milestone based on their own timing. Setting unrealistic expectations or comparing your kid can give you more stress and pressure. You have enough things to think about rather focus on comparing your kid.
Be patient and gentle as you go along the process of parenting. Not everything will happen instantly.
You will make mistakes
We made a ton of mistakes and wrong decisions while we parent our son. This made me feel little about my self and started thinking that I am not a good mom. It took me a while to get over this feeling and forgive myself. Plenty of assurance and help from my husband made me realized there will no perfect way of parenting. This may not sound good, but sometimes it feels like you are experimenting on how to raise a kid. You might say, "are you insane? experimenting on how you will raise someone with a life and will make a decision in the future." Yes! This definitely sounds insane, but with tons of prayer, wisdom, and grace from God it's the only way you can make it happen.
You need a village
Yes! You need a whole community/village to raise a child - one child. I kid you not, we had so many help from my parents, in-laws, brother, sister, friends, and even strangers. Reaching where we now take credit from all those help. The understanding we received from our employers when we cannot go to work or make an arrangement to accommodate this season of our lives. Our parents and siblings that will immediately be there when we need a hand. Friends who support and will adjust based on the convenience of our son.
Don't forget to ask help and be grateful for these people.
Pray. Pray. Pray.
Seek and ask God for guidance, wisdom and everything else you need. No one else can help you other than God. During the darkest days of parenting, I always count on Him and He never failed me. You can cry out and surrender everything to Him.
Your Kid is Unique
This may sound cliche and you might hear this many times or for the first time, but its true. Your kid is specially made for you and will experience own milestone based on their own timing. Setting unrealistic expectations or comparing your kid can give you more stress and pressure. You have enough things to think about rather focus on comparing your kid.
Be patient and gentle as you go along the process of parenting. Not everything will happen instantly.
You will make mistakes
We made a ton of mistakes and wrong decisions while we parent our son. This made me feel little about my self and started thinking that I am not a good mom. It took me a while to get over this feeling and forgive myself. Plenty of assurance and help from my husband made me realized there will no perfect way of parenting. This may not sound good, but sometimes it feels like you are experimenting on how to raise a kid. You might say, "are you insane? experimenting on how you will raise someone with a life and will make a decision in the future." Yes! This definitely sounds insane, but with tons of prayer, wisdom, and grace from God it's the only way you can make it happen.
You need a village
Yes! You need a whole community/village to raise a child - one child. I kid you not, we had so many help from my parents, in-laws, brother, sister, friends, and even strangers. Reaching where we now take credit from all those help. The understanding we received from our employers when we cannot go to work or make an arrangement to accommodate this season of our lives. Our parents and siblings that will immediately be there when we need a hand. Friends who support and will adjust based on the convenience of our son.
Don't forget to ask help and be grateful for these people.
Pray. Pray. Pray.
Seek and ask God for guidance, wisdom and everything else you need. No one else can help you other than God. During the darkest days of parenting, I always count on Him and He never failed me. You can cry out and surrender everything to Him.
You are not alone :)
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